Girl trouble...

[cube_]

Is there anyone out there who has trouble finding a girl, instead of the girl always finding you?

 

[Addis]

Finding a girl? I wouldn't worry about it. If you're too focused on finding one then you'll neglect other parts of your life. The thing is, would you want to date someone who spends a lot their time trying to find boyfriend?

Branch out your interests, don't discount anything because it doesn't sound "you". "You" is something that isn't fixed, you'll be surprised what you enjoy. The same thing will apply to meeting new people, we generally have a lot more in common than differences and you'll just have to expand your social horizons.

I can't really offer anything specific because I don't really know you.

 

[cube_]

Thanks. Well, i should have been a little more elaborate in my posting. I don't have trouble getting with girls because they start with me first, rather than me starting with them first. I'm so passive (nice sounding) when it comes to introductions and beginnings, and that's really my biggest issue. I don't know how to be the leading-risk taker-confident-ruthless type of guy when it comes to introducing myself. I'm too nice. But i'm different once the girl gets to know me. Once i find her weak spots (knowing how to maker her laugh, mainly), i start becoming that leading man, and before you know it - she's in the bag.

I understand what you're saying about us not being "fixed". I'm 22 years old and i've been with only 3 girls. 2 were serious and 1 was a two-week thing. Lots of my friends have had 20+ girls! Sometimes i don't get how i'm friends with such extroverts! What kind of spark do i need to unleash my candidness and charismatic self? I know I have it... I just don't know how to utilize it at will.

 

[RHochstenbach]

Lots of my friends have had 20+ girls!

And that's the reason why you're writing that in past tense. Basically it's better to find 1 girl that you really like and have a good time with, than having someone else every week or so ;)

 

[donkey42]

well as far as advise goes, i would say "don't try" and soon you'll be beating them off with a stick, to summarize the harder you try the less you'll succeed, but, having said that i can't really say i particularly want a so called gf

Basically it's better to find 1 girl that you really like and have a good time with, than having someone else every week or so ;)

aimen to that

Lots of my friends have had 20+ girls!

people lie so don't forget the rule of 3