We're not a couple, thanks: The saga of geek love

We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

i completely agree with what others have said about meeting someone at a club. i have met many women in clubs but quite often there needs to be something striking about you that makes you stand out in a club for people to come and start conversation. either that or the other party need to be drunk. relationships started on clubs seldom last that long. work is perhaps the best way to meet someone but it could well turn out to be shop talk. i work for myself so do not have that opportunity, but fortunately have quite a few female friends who keep me sane.

 

We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

Well, I met her side of the family (well her folks, brother's family) yesterday. Things were pretty easy going, but I was a bit nervous going there. I've been a little nervous meeting the families of my dates, but I've never had a problem. It's over with...now to concentrate on my move this weekend.

 

We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

have you thought about letting her make the first move? this works out so much easier. the idea is that you simply act on impluse based on the little hints here are there by her. so maybe an arm around her for two seconds when you watch a particularly funny part of a film. honestly, this works!

 

Waiting for them to make the first move too much will make you look like you really don't care or don't want to show affection toward them. The best way is always to show how you feel towards the one you're with, if you have an opportunity then take it. Because it makes up for the fact that most guys don't pick up on it when girls make hints.

Great news that it went well, B. Meeting the family is a defining point in a relationship, if they have a high opinion of you then you'll go far, even if they don't think all that much of you it's just another challenge to overcome. Plus it will make her happier if you get on with her family, a lot of girls like it when their partner gets along with their family, no idea why, just happens that way.

Personal experience part here: I was REALLY nervous about meeting my girlfriend's parents because of all the boyfriends she ever had I was the first she even wanted her parents to meet. Don't blame her though. But when I did meet them it was a tense atmosphere, especially with her dad who had just come out of hospital so to break the tension I started a conversation by asking how he was feeling and what had happened. It really helped to ease things between me and her family and it's made her happier because now she's got one less thing to worry about.

 

We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

Smooth WWR, so long as there are no horrid dead spots you should be okay, if there are you can always go to the bathroom I suppose. Congrats Big B, hope all goes well bud

 

We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

well, i am afraid in that case guys need to learn how to read the hints. you will not get anywhere in a prospective relationship if you are not a good reader of body language. some women are dominant and others want you to act. i'll tell you what, sit down next to her and say to her that you feel awkward in saying this but what does she expect to happen next? if she smiles then just snog.

 

Thanks Ex.

Funky, you would be wrong there I'm afraid to say. I know many couples who started off when they were 19 and are still together in their 80's but the man still can't get a hint, just because you can't read body language doesn't mean you're never going to get into a relationship. Remember always, what works for one person is NEVER 100% guaranteed to work for everyone else.

Like with me, I offer my advice not because it works for me but because I look at things from a psychological point of view, it really does help.

Plus, body language can tell you many things, there are people who can fake body language (me, for instance) so it's not always a sure-fire way to read how someone is feeling. It doesn't matter how well you can or can't read hints, if you can read someone's eyes then you don't need hints, eyes can't lie, that's a fact.

 

We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

i don't mind being wrong! of course the relationships might work but they would find it to be much more fulfilling if they learnt body language or learnt to interpret their partner's body language. when you can communicate emotionally that is the best kind of relatioship.

 

We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

yeah, i supported them emotionally, and eventually that got me into the crappy situation im in now, AKA

2 like me, i like both back

 

We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

Oh yeah, how's that working anyway dude, progress?

 

did he say he was seeing her tonight?!?

 

We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

I dunno, well if he is good luck

 

We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

nah idk which one to pick

they're both smart, talented, beautiful, awesome personalities, god damn it

why me?

 

We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

And you complain on how you never get any good girls, okay so you didn't get them but you could. Which one likes computers more

 

Seriously, they can't have identical personalities, even identical twins have some differences, so that means one of them must have something about them that you (dis)like that the other doesn't have, makes the choice a lot easier.

But you do need to make the choice soon or you will end up with neither of them.

 

We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

at the fear of sounding sexist, good girls do not do computers!

 

Wrong. Utterly wrong. A good girl is not defined by what they are interested in. Interests determine how well you will get along with a girl (as I've previously stated), but they do not determine if the girl is good or not. I know plenty of girls who are great with computers (some better than me) but they're still really good people who are in long-term relationships that are going really well.

I'm afraid your statement is about the same as saying good girls do not do football. And as many of us should know, many girls are into football even though it's more of a man's thing traditionally, but that still doesn't mean they're bad people just because of one thing they are interested in. I'm interested in a lot of weird and depressing stuff but it doesn't change who I am.

 

We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

we have one girl on an otherwise all guy football team, and she kicks ass too

 

We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

one of my female friends runs a linux box at home, saying girls don't do computers is partially from their lack of knowledge or don't know the capabilities of a computer. Same things are applicable to guys.

 

We're not a couple, thanks -OR- How's your love life?

meh i like football and computers so i guess in some ppls eyes im not a 'good girl' but ahh well not my problem.